We would hang up mad at each other, call back to apologize, end up fighting again, but finally made up for good after realizing that we love each other and had no reason to fight. So we thought long and hard about how to make up and feel close again when the two of you are anything but close (at least physically), and here is what we came up with:
Learn to VERBALLY express your feelings. When you’re physically next to your partner than you can get away with the whole “actions speak louder than words” so if “I show my partner that I love them and I’m sorry than I don’t actually have to say the words.” This attitude won’t cut it in a long distance relationship. You have to let go of your pride and tell your partner how you feel or the distance between you will grow. Sure it doesn’t hurt to follow up with a sweet card in the mail or have flowers delivered, but you must also learn how to communicate your feelings.
Remind your partner how much they mean to you. This is where a card in the mail could really help you out. Going out of your way to do something special after an argument lets them know that you’ve put the fight behind you and that you want to feel close again. Be creative and think about the things that matter to your partner.
Lastly, you should be understanding and patient with each other. In a long distance relationship there are more chances of having a misunderstanding and getting upset for no reason. It could be because you write an email and your partner misinterprets the message or because you stay late at work and you can’t call to say goodnight. Respect each others space and time and be patient and understanding. Yet you should also try often to communicate in words and through actions that your partner is special and important.
I recently read an article about a couple who had been married for 85 years! Though my boyfriend and I aren’t married and can in no way compare our experience to this wise couple, I found their advice to be very helpful:
“Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend - not break!”
~ Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher; Married 85 years