Long Distance Relationships – Will Your Man Cheat On You?

Trusting someone who is miles away from you is difficult. It’s easy to let your mind wander and imagine things it shouldn’t. All your boyfriend has to do, for example, is mention a new female co-worker he’s working with on a project, and you automatically begin to imagine that she must be hot because why else would your boyfriend have mentioned her?


And then you determine that she must be trying to steal your man because well she’s hot and your man is hot so of course she wants him. Then you call your boyfriend during lunch (just to say hi not because you’re trying to check up on him), and he doesn’t answer, so you automatically assume he’s having lunch with this new “co-worker.” You then proceed to search Facebook for an hour determined to find pictures of this “floozy.” When your boyfriend finally calls you that afternoon to explain that he was tied up in a meeting, you interragote him about his new co-worker friend. It turns out this lady is married, 25 years your boyfriends senior, and bears a striking resemblance to cruella deville. As you breathe a sigh of relief, you realize that long distance love is making you crazy.

How do you know if you can trust your boyfriend when the two of you are apart? Here are the signs to look for to determine if he’s being faithful:

1) Has he made a commitment to you?

Has your man told you verbally, by email, or heck even by text message that you are his girlfriend? Many long distance relationships are stuck in what I call the gray zone. You guys talk regularly, and when he’s in town, you hangout. But yet, if he were to introduce you to his friends, you’re not sure if he would refer to you as his girlfriend, his friend, or cleverly just by your first name. If your man hasn’t made a formal commitment to you then it’s likely that he still has his eyes open for someone else. You guys should talk about your expectations of the relationship so that you both know where you stand.

2) Was he faithful before the relationship became long distance?

If the two of you were in a relationship before it became a long distance romance, then how he acted before the separation is likely how he will act when you’re apart. A committed loving boyfriend is likely to still be a committed loving boyfriend even if he’s not next to you everyday. The two of you should communicate regularly and plan trips to see each other. Don’t let your fear and insecurities ruin an otherwise great relationship.

3) Does he act trustworthy?

This may seem like a difficult question to answer, but it’s really not. Ultimately, most of us know when our partner is hiding something from us. Does he call you and look for you regularly? Has he verbally told you that his is committed and faithful? Does he express an interest in having a future with you? Is there when you need him? Does he keep his word? If he does, great, you should stop worrying and enjoy your relationship. If he doesn’t, or at least not all the time, then talk to him about it. Don’t accuse or threaten him just explain your feelings.

Guys who are hiding something might not tell you the truth when you confront them, but if his behavior is continually shady then trust your gut instinct. Remember, just because you are apart doesn’t give your partner the right to be with someone else. You deserve someone who will be true to you no matter what.

Have a question about your long distance relationship? Post a comment below and my boyfriend and I will both respond with his and her advice.